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THE POWER OF SELF 3/5

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Loving oneself isn’t hard, when you understand who and what ‘yourself’ is. It has nothing to do with the shape of your face, the size of your eyes, the length of your hair or the quality of your clothes. It is so beyond all those things and it is what gives life to everything about you. Your own self is such a treasure.

You might now wonder the importance of understanding oneself to the attainment of peace here on earth.

  1. Understanding yourself gives you a clear understanding about your background.

Many at times, people give reasons they cannot attain high height in life to the kind of home and family they were conceived. Sometimes we spend more time in blaming our parents for the mistake they made that we do not concentrate on the mistake we are making.

As I grow up to become a young man, I come to realize that our parents have needs to meet as much as they have our needs to meet. With the flux in the economy of the world, our patents still strive to care for as much as possible situations in the family. It is obvious that not every one of us have the same parental opportunity. Some of us were raised by others either as a result of adoption. There are however, many other children who are restricted to the street because they were not so lucky to have their parents by their side as a result of refutation and likewise, no one wants to be responsible for their needs. This does not apply to Africa alone; it happens all over the world. Notwithstanding, our circumstance is the same.

From Amma Darko’s story “Faceless” I was made to understand that there are some children in the world today whose heart desire is to see their parent one day and that their parent should be happy to see them in turn. They toil the street to search for their daily bread and seek motherly hug in time of deride and trepidation.

Understanding your background reminds you of how hard your parents strive for you, your siblings and their marriage. You cannot afford to cause them more trouble than they already have been through. This would be when you involve yourself in illegitimate activities and actions as frowned upon by the government and society you live in. There is a Yoruba (Nigeria) saying that “A good name is better than riches (wealth). Understand that if your parent could or could not make it and sustain it (life and marriage), you can.

Loving oneself isn’t hard, when you understand who and what ‘yourself’ is. It has nothing to do with the shape of your face, the size of your eyes, the length of your hair or the quality of your clothes. It is so beyond all those things and it is what gives life to everything about you. Your own self is such a treasure.

Phylicia Rashad

  1. Understanding yourself help to build your dreams.

I have often heard it that it is no longer enough to dream dreams but to put those dreams to work. How do you want to go about dreaming or developing your dream when you do not know more about the self that possess the dream? I have read in a book by Larry King that it is bad not to have dreams at all. Your dream is your aspiration, intentions, and expectations of life. Your dream is your person. It is ultimately how you will be able to relate with your world.

Those with the excess wealth are consumed or destroyed at the end of the day by self because they lack dream (focus) to build their wealth upon. Therefore, it does not really mean that they possess excess wealth as it might sound, but because they do not understand the laws of self of which one is discipline, the wealth they have acquire look excess to them so they spend lavishly without thoughts. It is important at this juncture to confess that your dream helps you to organise your focus and savings against distraction. A man with a dream is conscious of the steps he takes. He does not join a trade today and neglect such trade for another in the course of time. He understands what he wants and he is well knowledgeable on how to acquire it all. Therefore, no matter the number of time he failed, he never fails to get up and continue from where he stopped. A good example is Abraham Lincoln.

A dream is like the scientific theory you propound to produce or institute a new technology. A scientist despite his trials and error in achieving his goal does not give up on his theory or technology until he had accomplished his aim.

Self understanding in this regard gives you the basis upon which your dreams can be visualized. It is significant to note that there are over-ambitious dreams and desires, which only if we understand ourselves we would have been able to correct. This is why most often than not, children dream big but as they come to the age of reality, they minimize their dream to a particular aspect of life and it becomes compulsory to go for it. You can become a medical doctor and yet solve and repair electrical appliances, no doubt. It only shows lack of self understanding. If you are naturally good with repair of electrical appliances why study medicine?

Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the fury inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.

Golda Meir

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Victor I. Eshameh

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