Actualizing lifelong happiness
The happiest people are those who feel that they are doing something worthwhile and important with their lives.
The process of actualizing happiness is to identify the areas of your life in which you feel the happiest and the most intimate control. Think of how you could expand them.
Brian Tracy identified 5 ingredients of happiness that I’ll like to dwell on.
- Health and energy – In many cases, health is a “deficiency need”. This means that you do not think about health very much until you are deprived of it. Health and energy is perhaps the most important element of a good life. It is only when you enjoy high levels of pain-free health and a continuous flow of energy that you feel truly happy.
- Happy relationship – “Man is a social animal” – Aristotle. Fully 85 per cent of your happiness or unhappiness will come from your relationship with other people. Your ability to enter into and maintain high quality relationships with your spouse, children, friends, colleagues and others is the true measure of the equality of your personality and level of your mental health.
- Meaningful work – One of the most important responsibilities to yourself is to find the right job for you. Once you find the right job throw your heart into it. If for any reason you don’t feel like putting your whole heart into your work, it may be lacking one or more of the three essentials to a positive workplace. It may be a sign that this is not the right place for you.
- Financial independence – Some of the greatest fears we experience are those of loss, failure, and poverty. We fear being destitute without funds, and dependent on others. The happiest of people are those who have reached the point at which they no longer worry about money. Truth be told, I’m yet to see an employee at this point. This is not something you can leave to chance, but rather something that requires deliberate, purposeful action and tremendous self-discipline to achieve.
- Self actualization – This is the feeling that you are becoming everything you have wised to. Obviously, in self actualization, there are several needs to be met. Abraham Maslow describes it as Hierarchy of Needs. These are deficiency needs, security need, belongingness, self-esteem and self-actualization. Read more about Maslow theory here.
With all said, the wonderful thing is that you can hardly be completely satisfied. We will continually want to accomplish more, enlarge our territories and remain significant till death.
But as you continually care for your health, care about your relationship, commit yourself to your dream career, spend and invest wisely, you will experience a steady flow of happiness and contentment.
You’ll feel that you are becoming more and more of what you were truly meant to become. Your self-esteem and self-confidence will increase and then you will move towards your dreams effortlessly and you will genuinely feel happier.