Don’t let the failures get to your heart and don’t let the success get to your head.“ – Anthony Joshua


On the 1st of June 2019, the world was left amazed when Andy Ruiz Jr, a Mexican descent defeated Anthony Joshua, who was then the World Boxing Heavyweight Champion and that defeat marked his first ever defeat as a professional boxer. As it was then, majority of boxing lovers didn’t imagine that could ever happened. But it happened! Anthony Joshua is not an amateur boxer and his name commands much respect than to just lose to an unknown boxer.

After the loss, there were various speculations that Joshua lost because of this and that… Do you know what? As his fans were hobbling, making one excuses or the other and groaning in pain of his defeat, he came out openly that he has no excuse to make, he knew he never had a good fight and he apologized to those that expected him to perform excellently in that fight. You only miss out when you don’t win a fight, you totally becomes a loser when you allow your defeat to stop you from preparing for winning again.

Anthony Joshua moved on and return to the gym. He didn’t let the defeat affected him in any way – physically, spiritually and mentally. He knew it was bad that he had disappointed his fans, but it would be worst, if he allowed that disappointment to creep into his mind, his veins and contaminate his whole body system. He didn’t feel sorry for himself. He knows that it is possible to lose sometimes, but to lose yourself in the course of your loss heads you for humiliation!

When you are feeling sorry for yourself, you are not adding anything to your energy bank. It will only be fuelling self-doubt, guilt, despondency, remorsefulness and other negative feelings that if you keep dwelling on, they are bad for your motivation and inspiration. They shrink your self-esteem, diminish your values and crack your self-image.

Maintaining a healthy self-image is important for anybody that wants to live above life circumstances. I like how self-image was described by Potentiality Builders when they opined that: “Your self-image is not based on what you think people sees you as. Rather, it is how you intuitively sees yourself.” It is when you sees yourself as something that you wouldn’t lose yourself for anything. It is when your self-image is robust that your mind will be fertile to soar in positive thoughts.

When you don’t feel sorry for yourself, you are killing every attributes of inferiority complex. What attacks you physically and doesn’t affects your mind makes you great. However, what attacks your mind and affects your mind kills your body system. A lot of things are going to happen to you, but how you feel about them will determine what they can do to you; how they can shape your life.

Because Joshua didn’t feel sorry for himself, they organised another bout for him and Ruiz Jr. Joshua got back on his feet, regain his reflexes, add more strength to his punches and unleashed them in awe class. On the 7th of December 2019, Joshua defeated Ruiz Jr in their rematch. He rises again and knocked him out in the much touted match! Joshua became the champion again and smiles again.

Whenever you have come across something that doesn’t work out for you, instead of complaining about it, face it. Instead of feeling down and depressed from it, challenge it and you shall have every reasons to rise again. Remember, life is well shaped by facing the challenge that is real; rather than being comfortable with opportunity in obscurity. Joshua became a winner again because the words of Joel Osteen where he says “There will be crosses to bear, betrayals, setbacks, but if you’ll keep moving forward, there will be resurrections” were his solace.

Like Joshua, you can be boxed to the edge of the ring, you may even be boxed out of the ring. Instead of staying down, stay put. Instead of entertaining thoughts and feelings that will make you see yourself as mediocrity or failure, fill yourself with positive vibes, energies and be recalcitrant to defeat. Shed Hemstetter submitted: “You will become what you think about most; your success or failure in anything, large or small, will depend on your programming – what you accept from others, and what you say when you talk to yourself.”

©️ Sulyman Sodeeq Abdulakeem