Ours is a world where people don’t know what they want and they are willing to go through hell to get it.” – Don Marquis

Just a few days ago, I was interacting with one of my colleagues that has been making me resourceful. I inquired about her plan after completion of her service year, and her response makes me fascinated. She quipped: “What can makes me fulfill is…”

That response springs another question from my reasoning faculty. Though, “fulfillment” and “success” are something I have been attaching much interest to. As a person that dwells too much on existential intelligence, I want to contribute my own views on the aspects of “fulfillment” and “success”.

Image result for boxing ring images hdThe common analogies are self-development, self-discipline, self-confidence, self-esteem, self-fulfillment, self-discovery and others. Here comes the little task I want us to do together: I want us to ask ourselves if there is anything like “self-successful.” There is? None? Maybe the answer is yet to be gotten.

But without wasting our time, the distinction existing between the two are: fulfillment is existing at individual level, while success is a reward of actions we have taken inorder to be fulfilled, which people reckoned and recognised us for – people attribute success to what makes us fulfilled. Or why is it that when someone has achieved something you can refer to as success, instead for him/her to relax, he/she waddles for another ground to be broken?

Fulfillment sets an individual on the quest of prioritizing qualitative living, desire, values, goals, virtues, excellence and purpose. It simply connotes building self-identity/brand. And brand, as it is succinctly put by Tim Calkin “leads to better opportunity and less scrutiny, and these things build your brand even further.” On the same note, John C. Maxwell contended that “success is a continuous realisation of predetermined worthwhile goals.”

The two assertions were made to justify my point this morning. A person that prioritized/predetermined to achieve a goal, value, purpose, excellence (fulfillment) will keep realising the gratifications of worthwhile priority.

Let’s take our society for example, most people are successful today, but they are not fulfilled. They have that fame, people celebrate them, but yet they don’t feel that fulfillment within themselves. This means what should be the pillar of that success has been devoid of it – fulfillment.

In some cases, being successful comes with seeing yourself in the frame designed by others, while being fulfilled implies seeing yourself in the frame you have designed for yourself. After thirty five celebrated years of valuable service to the country, Dr Tunji Olaopa, the Vice President of Ibadan School of Governance and Public Policy (ISGPP) is now a Professor in Lead City University, Ibadan, Oyo State. Was he not successful? Why was he not relax after his years in public service?

Till I continue next week, strive for fulfillment as the yardstick for your success.