“I want to thank all the people who have told me I couldn’t do it. It is because they doubted me that I leaped this high.” – Anonymous

We all have find ourselves in a situation where we are asked what we want to do or become. It is always demoralising when the next thing you receive is criticism and not support. Often, we were been told “you can’t do this”, “this is more than you can chew” and other displeasing words like that.

Response in this manner are usually hard to bear for someone, who has figured and planned out what he/she is called for in life.

However, to be told you don’t have the skills and qualities to pursue your aspirations or be told you can’t achieve what you are reaching for in life is not the problem stopping most people from actualizing their goals. What is really stopping most people is self denial, doubts, fear and hesitation. The power in the words of the naysayers.

Naysayers are always parts of our life. They could be in our homes as father, mother, or siblings. We can find them amongst friends, colleagues and classmates. They are in the extended family as well. No one can say he/she has never encountered these people.

Naysayers are blessings in disguise. Why? They are there to remind you of your failures; they are there to help you see the ills, they are there to force you to expand your horizon. This is what all their criticisms stand for.

Sometimes, they claim wiser than you because they are quite older. They expect you to walk in their path and do accordingly! Most times, they mean well. But be warned, it is a limiter to your potential. They will sabotage you, and at the long run, blame you for every mistake.

You should not limit yourself to the rejection and discouragement of those voices saying something contradictory to your aspirations.

You should not put your trust in people who do not buy into your dreams, and goals in life. Do not allow naysayers to drag you off the course of your resolutions and convictions to change your life.

Do not open up your heart to acknowledging the predictions of the wrong people whose worth are worth a while.

Goethe, one of the famous philosophers of the Ancient times once submitted, “A man sees in the world what he carries in his heart.

Anybody who has ever taken his/her time to conceive something good in the course of changing the world and adding value to humanity would never pull other people down.

When the trajectory is challenging, what people need is encouragement and guidance to traverse the turbulence, not outright disapproval, discouragement, or rejections.

A quick advice – Don’t hold anyone in high esteem over your dream and pursuits. Don’t try pleasing OR satisfying another’s desire or emotional demand at the expense of your pursuit.

Ellen Degeneres says, “It’s wonderful to be loved, but it’s profound to be understood.”

It is in this profundity of understanding what you are Bernardo Sylva remain instead to his aspirations, even when he was told by many coaches that he couldn’t make it as a professional footballer.

It is in the deep clarity of how their dreams can change the world that Serge Brim and Larry Page kept chasing their goal of founding Google Inc.

It is in the insight of how ideas can influence and transform readers that Paulo Coelho remain resolute, despite several rejections, on the premise that his thoughts were not concertized. Today, “The Alchemist” is one of the best books ever written!

Don’t give room to the thoughts, belief and advice of those who want to stop you as you are on the verge of making a difference.

Those who want to imprison you are victims of their own imprisonment. Don’t give permission to those who think you are less worthy of success..

The day you realize that you don’t need the approval of any man to succeed, you will become unstoppable.

Finally, naysayers are everywhere,don’t allow anybody’s thought to deny you of your worth in life.


Sulyman Sodeeq Abdulakeem is a Librarian, Writer who co-authored the book “Responsible Living: Live to Fulfill Your Potential.”