Life is not fair
“Life isn’t fair. It isn’t going to be fair. Stop sniveling and whining and go out and make it happen for you.” – Dick Buttler
In the past, there were two brothers of the same father. Their father was a king. At the birth of both men, it was prophesied that they are both meant to live a worthwhile life – live to make impacts and initiate great changes that would affect all parts of the world. As the spiritualist was about to continue, their father interrupted him and said I am pleased with the good news you have shared about my children.
After a few years later, these boys have grown into men. They lived in a city which was situated by the riverbank. There were insufficient amenities in their city, thus there was not quite enjoyable about their city. They would need to cross to the other side of the river where lies the people and opportunities needed for a change of life. Though they had great prophesies about their lives but they could only make this happen by moving to the other side of the river.
With this understanding, one of the brothers without hesitation set out to embrace his destiny while the other was full with doubts and thoughts. He had thoughts that since he holds success and greatness in his destiny, nothing was required of him; and someday his destiny will naturally manifest! He did not understand that only weak people believe in luck, while strong people follow cause and effect.
The man willing to embark on his destiny, pack his bags, set a date of departure and bard his family goodbye. The man in contemplation was visited by friends and family who tried to convince him on reasons to set out. But he insisted on waiting for his destiny. Rather, he joined the family in barding his brother farewell.
The first lesson in the story is: Your life will start counting progress when you decide that you are not going to stay where you are; that you are not going to remain the same. Henry C. Link says “While one person hesitates because he feels inferior, the other is busy making mistakes and becoming superior.”
The journey through the river wasn’t easy. The further he seems to get into the water the deeper he sinks. But he was too determined to turn back to his less privileged city where nothing works. He was so engrossed in the things we would be able to achieve in the land of opportunities, that he never bothered when looked like he was going to drown.
He started hearing people’s voices, cheering and hailing him. Upon hearing this, he looked up, he could see the new city, the land of great opportunities. He reflected on the words of Robert Greene that “Masters are those who by nature have suffered to get to where they are. They have experienced endless criticisms of their work, doubts about their progress, and setbacks along the way.”
As he gets to the bank of the river on the other side, he met with great opportunities lying and waiting to be tapped. Kings and Nobles sought out for his wisdom. He soon discovered that the people had unlimited resources but haven’t leverage it. This wasn’t a challenge for him. He had within him what it takes to solve the kind of problems in this city. He could leverage his skills to teach the people how to use their resources to better their lives and connect to the world.
Zig Ziglar avers that “Success is the maximum utilisation of the ability that we have.”
It is however true and sad to know that many of us are like the other brother in the story who allowed his doubts control his thoughts and crippled his destiny. We have to activate our destinies by avoiding stagnation and having a will to set out to those things called challenges. Victor Eshameh will say, “Challenges only make your story glorious; it is the only ingredient of true success.”
We have train ourselves to deriving joy from the challenges that are real, rather than enjoying comforts in obscurity. Life is full of promises, unfortunately, not everyone will attain it without challenges.
Sulyman Sodeeq Abdulakeem is a writer who co-authored the book “Responsible Living: Live to Fulfill Your Potential.“