You can’t change what’s happened to you. You may have had an unfair past, but you don’t have to have an unfair future. You may have had a rough start, but it’s not how you start, it’s how you finish.” – Anonymous
But, before you give up on life I will love you to spend 3 minutes of your time reading this.
The ups and downs; twists and turns, favours and failures of life are happening to everyone, and your share may mostly be about the negatives, don’t worry.
The message is, you are not a victim; you are a Victor in the making. You are a person whose every circumstances and challenges are being thrown at, to makes you become the one who will thrive in his/her destiny.
You are not what life makes you be; you are what you make and design your life to be!
The adversities – irrespective of their measures and weight – cannot overwrite what has been divinely written in you. They can only trigger the seeds in you to splurge and sparkled in everlasting and unlimited proportions.
Robert Schuller, in the book Tough Times Never Last But Tough People, affirm that “Every adversity comes with its own advantage and only those who stay through the difficult times are positioned to reap the benefits when the tide becomes favourable.”
I don’t know the situation you are right now. But I am deeply sure that you are not a disadvantaged person. You have not been wrongly treated for everything you have been through in life.
Ward off that feeling of inferiority and self-pity that is causing the gifts and worth inside you to diminish, and erase those worthless thoughts that makes you feel lethargic and purposeless in life.
When others are seeing rejections, you have to always see approval and acceptance within yourself. It is of utmost importance for anyone who wants to thrive and flourish in life to not entertain victim mentality.
Stephen R. Covey aptly counsels by saying “It is easy to say no when there is a deeper yes burning within.”
Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King Jr sacrificed selves to rise against injustice and inequality of the Black race. Barack Obama approved that the black man has an equal capacity of leadership by leading the affairs of arguably one of the most diverse countries of the human race!
The moment you stop seeing yourself as a victim is a moment you start reducing the barriers and obstacles of limitations, self-denials and self-sabotage you are casting on yourself.
When you do this, you will inject more strength and forces in you to keep accepting yourself as whom you are. Someone once submitted that “It’s not who you think you are that holds you back but what you think you’re not.”
Neither your negative past, failures, trials, rejections, disappointments nor setbacks should be the reason for you to give up on life.
Remember, every fortune were products of turn arounds that speaks for the people who were resilient, positive and prevail as victors in the pursuits of what they believe it can shake their generational tree and fashioned a name posterity will reckon with for them.
Sulyman Sodeeq Abdulakeem is a Librarian, Writer who co-authored the book “Responsible Living: Live to Fulfill Your Potential.”