Underrating People: Here is why you should stop!
I have never met a man who was not my superior in some particular.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Life and nature are configured to exist in steps and layers. They operate like that because the stage we are today either lifts us up or drags us down, and the layer we are opening today may either be favourable to us or otherwise. Whichever step or layer we are, we have to understand that, we must not underrate anyone.
Because life evolves, it is very difficult for anyone to predict or determine what may happen tomorrow. Having this notion at the back of our mind will not only enjoin us to be respecting other people, but it also becomes the background for exhibiting humanness, tolerance, leniency, servitude, rectitude and candour towards other people.
Sometimes when you look at what you currently possess, you may be overwhelmed with those things. But you create a problem for yourself when you allow what you are currently having to predominate how you describe other people’s lives and undervalue them. What you currently possess is a trial for your own well being, too. Rory Vaden submitted, “Success is never owned; it is only rented and the rent is due every day.”
Let me share a secret with you, which you won’t regret if you can integrate it with the principles which your life is built: Always have it at the back of your mind that God deposited in every man, an infinite and abundant gift, which man deserves to be respected and showered with love for. So, if you can’t drive people to their purpose, don’t drag them of its track!
In this era that is challenging than ever, underrating people is not another attitude to inculcate to compound people’s woes. People need, more than ever, those who can help them discover themselves in overcoming life challenges, those who can support them in navigating life challenges, and not those who shrink their vigour with unpleasant and discriminating attitudes.
It is important to note that some people are not underrated by individuals around them. They are the ones underrating themselves. These people are patients of insecurity and inferiority complex. Some of them might have discovered their potential. But because they are scared of being judged or criticised for what they have done, they are underrating themselves.
And by doing so, they are giving approval to people around them to be looking down on them. Let me tell you something: If you come across patients of insecurity or inferiority complex, please, find a means of relieving and comforting them; don’t victimise them. Make yourself an apostle that speaks miracle to their lives by telling them the words of Gary Zukav that “…when you align your personality with your purpose, no one can touch you.”
This is what Lord Randolph Churchill – the father of Winston Churchill – did to Alexander Fleming – the physician who eventually saved Winston Churchill’s life during the Second World War. Around the 1890s, as a lawmaker, Randolph was travelling through Darvel, United Kingdom, when Fleming was wandering the bush.
Randolph was surprised. He asked Fleming whom he was and what he was searching for in the bush. Fleming told Randolph that he might truly be lost in the world, but in his mind, he knows where he is heading. Fleming proposed to Randolph if he could help him become a medical doctor. Randolph accepted Fleming’s proposal, and he duly supported him in becoming a renowned microbiologist and medical doctor.
Aside from the scientific breakthroughs, Fleming was the physician who saved Winston Churchill – Randolph Churchill’s son – when he was injured during the Second World War! Ask yourself this question: Who could have saved Winston Churchill, if his father had underrated Alexander Fleming? Because Randolph appreciated Fleming’s insights and helped him forge his true identity, he was active in Winston’s story for their lifetime.
It is true that life evolves and revolves. But it only evolves when we create room for others to discover themselves and break bounds; when we allow them to flourish in what they are made of, not what we make for them. Whereas life revolves when the cycle of change favours a set of people and restricts some people from exploring the possibilities of life.
What you do to help people appreciate themselves not only speak about them; it also speaks about your worth, your value and vision. Don’t assume what you are expected to do will be to mean to make a difference. Make adding value to people – no matter their status – an attitude you cultivates. Winston Churchill affirmed that “Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.”
SULYMAN, Sodeeq Abdulakeem is a Librarian, Writer who co-authored the book “Responsible Living: Live to Fulfill Your Potential.“